Telling someone how you feel after the death of a loved one can be one of the toughest things to do. With the tips and samples below, telling someone you care can be a little easier. Without telling someone you care in a note or a kind spoken word they may not realize you are really there for them in their time of need.
There are two examples of sympathy notes. One note is giving someone your sympathy and this is often given with a gift of flowers, or food. The other type of note is thanking someone for their sympathy.
Here are some samples of wording for sympathy notes. Remember, the most important part of the note is your name at the bottom; that it’s you who cares.
On a small card, such as one sent with flowers:
- We are so very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you.
- Thinking of you at this difficult time.
- You’re in our thoughts.
- We’re so very sorry to hear about Margaret. Please know we’re thinking of you in your time of sorrow.
- “Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.” Isaac Asimov
I want to express my sincere gratitude for the thoughtful gifts you sent. The flowers and plants truly brighten the room and lift my mood.
I know Sam would appreciate your kind gestures. He spoke often of his friendships with his many co-workers; I know you all meant a great deal to him. Many of you expressed such beautiful sentiments that I have no trouble seeing why Sam enjoyed his work so much. Being surrounded by people like you was a large part of why Sam liked to go to work each day.
Thank you all so much for your kind words, your generous gifts, and most of all, for your friendship with Sam. Knowing you will miss him too makes my burden a bit easier to bear.
This thank you note thanks someone who served as pallbearer at the funeral:
Thank you for serving as a pallbearer. You are a reliable and dear friend. Your contributions to the services were a tremendous comfort. I will be eternally grateful. Thank you.